Four qualities that will kill your relationship

Relationship experts say that there are 4 personality traits that are detrimental to any relationship. So if you have em change em! And if your partner has them, you may want to think twice about pursuing a long term relationship.
According to Renay Cleary Bradley, director of research for the Relationship Research Institute in Seattle, the enormous red flags are:
- Criticism
- Defensiveness
- Contempt
- Stonewalling (shutting down communication)
So what are the secrets to making a relationship last?
- Friendship
- Sharing admiration towards one another
- Acceptance
- Appreciation
- Remaining positive
- Genuine Interest in your parnter’s dreams, goals, likes & dislikes.
- Affection
- Fighting the “right way”
How to fight the right way:
- Be calm and empathetic
- Talk about how you feel, not what your partner did
- Do not make accusations
“If there’s more negative than positive going on in your relationship, it’s time to bail. You don’t want to spend the rest of your life with someone who treats you this way,” says Thomas Edwards, dating and lifestyle coach and founder of The Professional Wingman, “To maintain any relationship, both people have to put in the effort to make the other person feel safe, happy and most of all, loved.”
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